Surviving the Holidays | "Fear Is Not My Future"


"Fear Is Not My Future" | Speaker: Josh Cadwell

How am I going to survive the holidays?

There is a greater chance of dying a natural death on Christmas, the day after Christmas or New Year’s Day than any other single day of the year. - December 23, 2013; Source: National Library of Medicine

Grief is born of loss and exists only as an emptiness.

How do we deal with something that is really nothing?

Grief: A highly individualized, nonlinear process, an overwhelming emotion rooted in sadness.

Grief is sometimes compared to climbing a spiral staircase where things can look and feel like you are just going in circles, yet you are actually making progress.

"No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear" - C.S. Lewis

Unaccepted Grief: Grief that a person experiences when they incur a loss that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, socially sanctioned or publicly mourned.

What if this year it could be different?

Grief is the price we pay for love.

If you could avoid this pain, but it meant you never would have know them, what would you choose? 

Satan loves to take what's beautiful and ruin it.

God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.

– Genesis 1:31 NIV

22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. ... 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

– Genesis 2:22,25 NIV

The Temptation and Fall

1 Now the Shining One was more clever than any animal of the field that the Lord God had made. He asked the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You are not to eat from any tree of the garden’?”

2 “We may eat from the trees of the garden,” the woman answered the Shining One, 3 “but as for the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, God has said, ‘You are not to eat from it, nor are you to touch it, or you will die.’”

4 “You certainly will not die!” the Shining One told the woman.

Satan loves to take what's beautiful and ruin it.

BUT God loves to take what's ruined and make it beautiful.

20 But Christ has indeed been raised from the dead, the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep. 21 For since death came through a man (ADAM), the resurrection of the dead comes also through a man (JESUS). 22 For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive.

- 1 Corinthians 15:20-22 NIV

At its core, Christianity isn’t about self-help or morality, but divine rescue.

The Hope of the Resurrection

And now, dear brothers and sisters, we want you to know what will happen to the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no hope.

– 1 Thessalonians 4:13

Grief and hope can coexist.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

– John 16:33 NIV

You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.

– Psalm 56:8 NLT

A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.

– Isaiah 53:3 NKJV

This High Priest of ours (JESUS) understands our weaknesses, for he (JESUS) faced all of the same testings we do…

– Hebrews 4:15 NLT

32 “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.

… 35 Jesus wept. 36 The people who were standing nearby said, “See how much he (JESUS) loved him!”

– John 11:32, 35-56 NLT

What Happens to Believers Who Have Died

13 Brothers and sisters, we want you to know what happens to those who die. We don’t want you to grieve, as other people do. They grieve because they don’t have any hope. 14 We believe that Jesus died and rose again. When he returns, many who believe in him will have died already. We believe that God will bring them back with Jesus.

17 After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them.

– 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14, 17 NIRV

3 ...God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

5 He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!”

– Revelation 21:3-5 NIV

When we know our ending is better than our beginning, we'll be able to endure what's in between.